I also am cool with calling myself bisexual or lesbian but I would then have to breakdown to others that I have not nor will ever date or be intimate with a woman. This is a feeling I know deep down in my gut because as highlighted quite a few times, the desire for women for the past 15 years on and off has for the most part (excluding the teen cyber sexual chat incident that happened once at 14) followed a pattern of stimulus (porn/erotic content)>Stimulus inspired me to think of making out with a woman>masturbation//orgasms>Any desires felt for a woman during stimulus and Masturbation have gone. The last stage I have underlined is where it has always ended. I can't make myself feel a desire to move it along and experiment or date a woman, there is nothing there. If this is what is means to be bisexual or a lesbian, I have no problem going by this definition and calling myself these labels.

If I am being honest, my question is less an emotional one (I know how I feel about both genders) and more a technical one (trying to understand sexual orientation labels and which one best describes my reality).I recognise I am very clear on what my feelings are. But what I am trying to grasp here is what defines bisexuality/being a lesbian? Is there a correct and agreed upon terms of whether it includes thoughts one has had on and off for 15 years assisted mostly of the times by stimulus (porn/erotic content) that one has no intention of actually going out and making real? This seems to be my question?

I seem stuck because almost everyone I have discussed with in person (mostly friends)has their own definition of what defines bisexuality/being a lesbian so how does one know what to define themselves if there is not an agreed term? How confusing is this whole seuality topic loool

Also believe me I am the last person on earth who would have internalized homophobia. I literally live on the fringe of society for being a non conformist anyway so being lgbt would only add more stripes to my already confident non conformist lifestyle. I also have no history of trauma to suggest I would have issues with intimacy. Being without a partner is not harming me in anyway. I love being single and yes if I ever change and desire more, then sure, why not,, I'll go with whoever makes me happy irrespective of their gender. But that might never happen and I prefer to just work on my reality right now and grasp some key understanding of my identity that for too long has made me feel quite isolated in my experience.

Hey, I wrote a long thesis here. No need to reply if you don't have the time. I am working through research on the subject and glad to learning more about human sexuality (talk about complicated.....here's to finding some consensus on what all these labels mean).