Many factors go into a relationship...yes, emotional maturity, but to me, I need someone thoughtful, a good listener, kind, non-judgemental, emotionally responsive, someone that is generous with their time, since this affects how and when we spend time together.

I have had many friendships with people from my support group, some have flourished, others were stifled by mental illness, either my own or theirs, or both working negatively at each other.

Whenever I form a friendship outside of my support group, it makes me healthier...like I am capable of being friends with any member of the population at large...along with that, though, comes fear....how can a friendship work with someone without a diagnosis? Should I disclose my mental illness? Will I be judged? How can I possibly explain how difficult my life has been, to someone that has had a life without huge problems?

Big questions. There are no simple answers.

I will continue to throw myself into all friendships, though. From my support group, or from the big world, out there.....