I desperately want to contact the first woman I think he lied to me about. This was from two years ago. I am so confused, my mind is so full of the **** he told me. It's like...she doesn't even need to respond to me. All I want to know is if, the first time he and I started talking, back in February/March of 2016, if she was still in the picture. I'm sure she was. And he was making plans for me to come down to TN even then. The first question I asked him when we started chatting, before I indicated that I had interest was "Are you single?" Yes, he said. I'm single.

The premise of that initial conversation was because, when he used to contact me in 2012, I was super standoffish to him. Like...really, really. And I finally told him, in no uncertain terms, to stop messaging me, even though he tried a few times. My purpose for messaging him in 2016 was to apologize for being such a B, because I'd opened those old chats and I saw how completely and sharply I'd cut him off. We didn't even really start flirting. We just chatted about how I was seeing a guy from a dating site, how his dating life was going (he indicated that he hadn't dated at all recently, had tried Tinder and failed, had a few failed dates here and there...that was BS I found out later since he'd admitted to a 4 year relationship and I called him on it recently and he was like, "I don't remember what I said")

I just want to know the extent of his gaslighting. That's all. I feel like there is so much of the story missing. Will it help? I don't know. But I want to know. What is the worst she can do? Block me? Surely she knows what an *** he is.