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Originally Posted by amandalouise
yes sometimes I get these thoughts and spend time daydreaming about them. but I have learned that for me the best thing to do is either call my treatment providers or a friend. or I do something caring for myself like baking myself something I dont usually have or taking in a movie or show, treating myself in the caring ways that I would like others to do. this was taught to me by my treatment providers. here its called self care, self nurturing and self parenting.
suggestion maybe start out with something very easy like if you want someone to act like your parent and hold you , maybe put on a blanket around you while sitting in the corner of the sofa or chair. I have found this gives me the same feeling as if I was safely sitting against someone wrapped in their arms,
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I already do what I can. I run my own In-Home personal training business and am in school for Massage therapy. Not much free time and when I do have free time and am not keeping my mind busy the thoughts get worse like it stops me from just relaxing and enjoying a movie or quite time.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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