thank you guys for the insight.....
i have been thinking about this a lot, trying to get over the annoyance (probably defensiveness) and trying to look at this a different way.

i would like to rephrase my post to say that "i get annoyed when i feel criticized"
and at times this has led to hostility toward others. not in these forums, but in life.
how to get over this...
i have a really rough exterior (my dad was in the military so maybe that explains part of it)
how have you guys dealt with feelings of hostility toward others in response to their words you percieved to be unwelcomed criticism?