Hi all, I don't know if I am in the right forum for this or not... If you read my profile you will get a little better idea about me and my hubby. Long story short- we met in college, when the alcohol was flowin' and the hormones were raging! We have both struggled a bit with alcohol dependence since college; but we are both very self reflective and I am hoping we have caught the addiction before it can do serious damage... I am huge into fitness and that is part of what pulled me out of my alcoholic slumber... My husband was extremely fit/muscular when we got together almost 10 years ago now.... He has been slower to get over the alcohol and has gained a lot of weight over the years...

I thought maybe this is what was contributing to my loss of sex drive. but it just doesn't add up. Very recently, he has been working with a personal trainer and starting to get a little bit of that bicep pop back (which i noticed immediately, and finally felt the girls perk up a bit for the 1st time in ages) but it's still so off.
I used to be crazy about sex. Now, I don't even care to do it myself (yes you know what I mean). What happened to me?! In high school I would consider myself to have been a nympho. I would do it myself all the time and by the time I got my 1st serious boyfriend, we were doing things that grown *** married couples wouldn't even dream of! I used to tie him up and get crazy... In College, same thing. And when me and my husband first got together we were doing it like we were trying to multiply (yes, I was so crazy back then, making him have sex with me in public and irresponsible things like that!) SO What happened to me?! I dont even watch porn anymore... I am not even 30 yet. I thought your sex drive was supposed to increase as women age... Can it be that because I was so sexual early on that I used it all up? Where is my inner sexual warrior? How can I entice her to come back out with the man who deserves it?
Other side notes- yes I have talked to my doctor on a few different occasions about my low sexdrive... his/her answer was more foreplay.. The man I married is very large downtown and I thought that if I just banged him all the time I would loosen up, but I was sadly mistaken... My doctor says that all anatomy wasn't always meant to fit perfectly... but that still doesnt explain why my crazy nympho goddess has left my body. I have also contemplated if it is the fact that I work out too much and seem to get my stimulation out while i am lifting weights... but everyone says exercise should increase your sex drive! Please help. I would love to hear from people who have maybe gone through this same thing... or if anyone has any ideas.