yes, both of you are right, i only talk here and to my dear sister. she understands. otherwise i am alone. my husband tried to tell me how awful i am tonight, and i swear i bend over backwards not to talk about myself at all to him. so when he started this crap i just told him i don't care, i don't CARE, I DON'T CARE. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but sometimes i really don't care; I just need to take care of me or my grip will get even weaker. They don't know.