hi there

i am also the daughter of a 23 yr marine. i also understand defensiveness...very well. i immediately get defensive ALOT. the thing with me is...i get lots of internal responses to triggering situations and if i speak at all, i try to pick the the response with the most "tact (for lack of a better word atm)" t has also helped me learn ALOT that 1) not all comments/actions are meant as a personal attack against me, and 2) alot of the other persons responses/actions are based on what they're feeling/thinking atm. it's helped me alot. i used to also think that any disruption in any relationship meant...the end. t has also shown me that i've had MANY differences with many ppls and have stated them and those ppl are right there...still. t's been a good thing for me.

so, i understand where you're coming from and appreciate you openness to my post.

kd