Thanks, TB. But like I said I repaired a major rift with her a few years ago. It was major. So will it become a pattern? That I am the mender of fences? Also, she revealed a nasty side I had never seen before. That's hard to forget. I am just in a place where I can't handle ANY verbal abuse. In fact, I even explained that to her in an email before she shut down. I told her I don't have that in my life now (it was prevalent in my family of origin) and it just isn't a part of my life. She is in a marriage where she allows her partner to verbally abuse her on a daily basis. Maybe she now thinks this is a "normal" way to navigate conflict. But I can't allow that in our relationship. I DID write all of this in an email to her. But now she has shut me down. It remains to be seen if she will hold a grudge. (She has been known to do that. She holds onto things. She's a hoarder.) I am going to not shut the door all the way. But I cannot always be the one mending the broken fence.