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Old Mar 30, 2018, 09:05 AM
DechanDawa DechanDawa is offline
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv View Post
I have a similar friend. I’ve been trying to keep her at arm’s length. This one is worse than a complainer, she attacks me for no reason that I deserve. Yet, I feel that I don’t want to defriend her again like I’ve done in the past several times.

It sounds like your friend is very depressed and can’t contain it, even in an Easter letter.


TB, you are so very clever, and intuitive. This person is a life-long depressive. She had one suicide attempt as a teen. OK. So in this Easter letter she said she has felt suicidal since her mother died. Well, her mother was 96 and had a long and full life, and was not a depressive, and I am certain she would not want my friend to grieve on. It has been three years. I told my friend she probably had complicated grief and she should seek out counseling at a grief counseling center. This is one thing that really irked her and got her dander up. Well, I am really not going to just sit there and hear her say she wants to commit suicide over her 96 year old mother's very peaceful passing. I mean she has a new beautiful grand child, and many other joys. She has a beautiful home, a lovely family blah, blah, blah. However....however....she is a depressive. Yes.

I can put up with her being a depressive. But I can't put up with vitriolic attacks. No, TB, I can't and I won't. I mean we have our own difficulties in life and we need to prioritize our self-care. I know (from your posts) that you treasure friendship, and so do I. But we must weigh the costs, too.
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