My t is male and I’m female and we hug every session. They used to be a frame hugs and I didn’t realize I was nonvrbally communicating that I wanted it that way. T is married so I tried to keep a boundary out of respect for both of them. I assumed that is what t would want. Recently he asked me what the a frame hug was about. I didn’t think I was the one limiting hugs. We are both ok with “real” hugs, waist up of course. So our hugging style has changed since that conversation.

I always wonder if his wife were watching us would she be ok with it? I try to stay respectful just not sure if this is a slippery slope or I am over thinking this. I don’t know ant to say no ad I find hugs very healing.