Some people can't afford professional help. When she can afford it she does a little therapy which helps. But if she cannot afford it all the time it is painful.

She doesn't like to write. Would never keep a journal.

She doesn't take suggestions easily. That's how this latest argument started...because I made some suggestions like finding a grief counseling center and doing group work because she has complicated grief.

I can't serve as her long distance case worker. I have enormous problems of my own. I can only just keep being her friend on whatever level I am able.