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Originally Posted by Buffy01
I am sorry that you are struggling right now with your friend. Maybe your friendship really has run it course. Perhaps letting go is the next step. Which is very hard to do especially when you really care. Sometime a person can only do so much to the best of their ability.
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Yeah, but she is a lifelong friend. I won't abandon her. I will simply lower my expectations. She did respond to my email today so that is positive.
I feel sorry for her because she has a lot to be grateful for but she doesn't see it.
She put down CBT (Cognitive Behavior Therapy) but it has actually helped me to clean up some cognitive distortions.
As well, I have become active spiritually and have joined a congregation and it is helping me socially and community-wise.
I think the lesson is...not to use our friends as therapists...and not to let them use us that way.
I learned a lot from everyone's comments, and everyone's feedback was invaluable. I was in a lot of emotional pain and that has lifted enabling me to have more compassion for my friend. Thank you!
As we all know, depression can be a b----! Throw anxiety on top...and it is like dynamite!
As long as my friend is responsive I will never abandon the friendship. However, this is head's up to me to apply more self-care in my life.