I looked at your other post and saw where you said you are trying to help your husband drink less alcohol because he is definitely drinking excessively to the point of compromising his health. From both my husband and I's experience, drinking alcohol all of the time makes you gain a lot of weight. About eight years ago, my husband stopped drinking and has lost 65 pounds since then. He did it because he realized it would send him to an earlier death and wants to live to a very old age. With that weight loss--he really is a lot better in bed because he has more stamina and can position himself better plus I used to feel like he was crushing me sometimes! Also, he would sometimes be really drunk but if I was completely sober it was a huge turn off. Then I would think back to the times when we first met and the beginning of our marriage and the sex was just great even though we were both drunk so I would drink some sometimes just so I could handle the sex that he was sure to want later! I am so glad he quit drinking but I don't think you can get your husband to quit drinking--only he can get to the point that he is more afraid of drinking than his love of drinking (or get help for what he is numbing himself for).

As far as you go--recent studies show that drinking is even worse for women than men. I notice I cannot recover as quickly from drinking and rarely drink anymore. That my husband no longer drinks makes this much easier--I never buy alcohol and bring it home. I starting drinking at age 18 but I could really relate to some of the things this article talks about:
https://bewitchingkitchen.com/2016/1...cy-of-alcohol/

Working out makes sex better for me especially when I used to do a lot of yoga--it makes me more flexible and strong and I feel sexier when I look better. I used to crave exercise when I was not getting enough sex. It was an outlet for my frustration. Now that we are not drinking--it has made sex better. I noticed when I was sober and my husband was really drunk--it took forever to get him to climax. Back then, I felt obligated to do this for him but it made me sort of mad (sometimes he would wake me up) then I was up for the remainder of the night. Then I would feel resentful of him doing this and it would effect our love life. It is so much easier to orgasm if a couple has a loving feeling toward each other. So much about good sex comes from our mind, emotions, fantasies and the older you get the more you need to draw from these things in order to have great sex. Also, when we are drunk, it is hard to think about how to best please our partner. It is no wonder your sex life is not as satisfying right now!!! Alcohol can really destroy a relationship. I hope your husband can find the motivation to change.