Transference happens to everyone across sex lines, etc. and not just in therapy. Females can feel their male T's are like their fathers or husbands, or can even feel their female T's are like their fathers or husbands! My female T and husband have a lot of similar characteristics (as did my husband and father with one another). But, like you, males can feel they would like to marry their female T or that their female T is like their mother, wife, sister, girlfriend, female boss, etc. My father-in-law did not like my stepmother because she was so like his own mother whom he couldn't stand!

Hopefully one's transference gets "resolved" (fancy word for sorting itself out) eventually. This case isn't exactly like yours exactly but you might find parts of it interesting: http://www.integrativetherapy.com/en/articles.php?id=46