If I had to do it over again, I'd worry less about what label to apply, and more about the psychological effects. Being provoked into strong feelings, then encouraged to see the feelings as a problem, then feeling compelled to change or repress or hide the feelings, in order to preserve the relationship that induced the feelings... seems like a path to madness.

Plus, provoking basic needs, then substituting clinical analysis for gratification of of the needs... i dont think evolution equipped us for such a thing, and playing this game is dangerous and in my view not worth whatever meagre insights are generated by viewing things in terms of "transference", which is such a vague concept.