I assume my T does. He never specifically said so though, which is something I'm glad about. I'm not sure I wanted to know why specifically he acts the way he does - it would make me want to "protect him" from the reasons he had to reflect in the first place, if that makes sense?

Mona, this is only my opinion and please feel free to ignore it, as you haven't asked for it... If your T keeps pushing too hard even though she's aware of it, maybe she's not really reflecting as much as she should? After all you're supposed to learn from your mistakes and actually change something...