But that is what I am saying - even if I tell a therapist I drink a bottle of whiskey a night (I do not - this is an example) - the therapist does not get to try and stop me if I say I drink a bottle of whiskey a night and it is not something I want to change. So I don't think it matters what a therapist knows about a person or how they found it out. If a client has not said they want to deal with something - it is off the table for the therapist. The therapist's feelings about anything are not relevant in how I see it.