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Originally Posted by scaredandconfused
Find a new teacher? Or choose to take responsibility for yourself only and focus on that?
Refusing to move forward because of someone wronging you is like setting your own house on fire to make someone feel bad. Your therapist will continue to live his life, and act how he does, regardless of how your life goes. Frankly, the only one you are punishing here is yourself.
If you choose to stay stuck at this point in your life, it will be on you. Not your therapist, not your parents. Yes, they may have played a part in how your perspective is now. But the only one responsible for our own lives as adults is ultimately us.
Whether you choose to accept that now, later, or never, is up to you. I wish you the best.
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Oh, that's not my point. My therapist tried to make some sort of "demands" from me - such as to find a job, get a degree, move out and not rely on my parents. And of course, he wanted me to take the responsibility and commitment to whatever he is saying. But since he could not take responsibility for his own actions, how would he expect me to listen to his teachings?
The point is - I need to hold people more accountable and responsible if I am to grow and develop.
You can see in films like Avengers for instance, where the heroes rely on each other's OWN responsibilities to win - they can't take care of their problems alone!
Or even a manager who RELIES on other co-workers in order to achieve his personal success and his department's goals, and he has to make
sure he can rely on them!
Same with a therapist, and the same with my parents - it's time I hold my standards and depend on anyone when I need to.
And if someone who helps makes a mistake, particularly when they're a professional, they need to be held accountable, otherwise they are FIRED!