There's oodles of info out there that explores the deeper meanings and how it can being incredibly useful if the T is competant and comfortable dealing with it. Mishandled it can be bad. The sexual feelings have little to do with sex. Transference of any kind is useful.

the amount of touch is another hot topic out there.. no hard and fast rules. All a matter of the T/client relationship.

i do wish for a hug sometimes.. mostly because no one really touches me much and i have a deep belief that i am somehow repulsive that way or something. Even when people do hug me i discount the experience. i'd like to desensitize those beliefs and learn how to accept friendly safe touch. Right now though i think it would be too much for me. We don't touch at all. i don't have sexual thoughts or feelings about him and i'm happy about that right now. i know it would be ok to deal with that if it happened, but i would be overwhelmed if it happened now.