maybe half the obsession is the rxn you have soli.. i feeds it and your own feelings of inadequacy. It would drive nuts too.. and i think feeling that way is perfectly appropriate. i mean, looking and not touching is one thing.. making it obvious in front of you is %#@&#! rude and disrespectful. It doesn't mean he is a bad person, but he is doing something bad. The convo between you is about respect. How would it be if he whistled and cat called? Thats not touching either.. but its an extreme to prove a point.. respect. You deserve respect soli, and you have every right to ask for it. i know how it feels to feel like your feelings are somehow silly or not ok. But feelings are feelings.. they just are.

i don't know how to solve it and i've not had to deal with it more than once or twice... but you both need to deal with it. Disrespect is coming from somewhere.

whenever i've had it happen i have made some comment to the guy i was with about his being an ***** and they were always really embarassed to have been caught in the act. So i dunno.. his insistence on continuing is troubling. How would he feel if you were doing it?

he sounds like a good guy soli, no worries about saying how this makes you feel.. it's just an inappropriate behaviour that needs to be addressed. i'm sure you guys can work it out.