I am sexually frustrated too! I am a man who is attracted to men. I am 41 years old and have been out since my teens. I am frustrated because I have found out one horrible thing in life: the gay community is not conducive to monagamy. I don't want short term only sexual lovers and I certainly don't want an open relationship. Those gay men who can tolerate short term relationships and or open relationships came from families that were separated or divorced. Also many gay men cannot love another man truely because of feelings of rejection from their youth. My parents have been together all their life until my father died. My mother remains a widow. My parents did not neglect me. So I am frustrated because I know how to love but their are no gay men who are able to be loving and caring due to their past experiences. I cannot except the gay lifestyle. So now I am going to be working with my therapist on how to cope with this. I am learning to love myself now and enjoy my own company. I know that at times I want the intimacy, but I am only cheating myself and getting hurt when I am with a man who wants to have as many men as he can.