Thank you so much for your answers, very helpful!

I have been doing this job for nearly 2 years now, and I mostly work with age group 16-21. I am really trying not to pretend that I know more then the girls I work with. I am not that much older and I struggle with anxiety so I do understand how vulnerable people feel when they are distressed.

Sometimes giving someone options while they struggle is very challenging, as usualy in response I get 'i don't know', but I guess showing someone that they have options and that I respect their wishes is helpful.

But as you said, I will never fully understand how it feels and we will never know what goes in someone's head. I just have to take every incident as it comes and try to learn form it to be able to provide the best support.

I do agree that the relationship while not struggling is very, very important. I work at a step down from secure, so luckily, there is a lot of opportunities to build supportive relationship and have some fun.

Once again, thanks for answering!