To answer your questions...no I have not seen a therapist about this. I've definitely thought about it lately though. As for my teenage daughter, she is now turning 21. She seems to be O.K. with it now. She was having nightmares about him for a while, but hasn't had any lately. She has been in a happy relationship for over a year now.
One nightmare I had recently was quite violent(him stabbing someone in the neck with a fork...yuck!).
As far as me not getting closure...that makes a lot of sense. One of my problems, I think, is the fact that he is still "hiding out" at his dad's house to this day(I spoke to a cousin of his that I ran into about a month ago). He is only 15 minutes away from where I live & I know that his dilusions change sometimes(he now thinks he is Brittney Spear's father in addition to thinking people want to kill him!!!!). I guess part of me is concerned that he may decide one day that I am "the enemy" & come after me...or decide to look for my daughter. I don't know if I can ever get closure on that fear.