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Old Apr 04, 2018, 10:18 AM
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Originally Posted by Veritastar View Post
Oh, I don't want anyone to misunderstand me. I'm not looking for a diagnosis on here, I just want to understand this better. I feel like I'm gaining a bunch of new problems and I'm just trying to make sense of them. I'm going to go see a psychologist next week. I just asked because I want to know if any other people feel like they are disconnected from themselves. I do this because sometimes explaining how I feel before I go talk to someone professional sometimes helps me more clearly explain my problems.
my suggestion is not worry about talking to others online to clealry explain your problems. they want to know whats going on with you in your own words how ever you talk and your own understanding of yourself....

you see treatment providers do know when someone is going online or to others then repeating the same wording or style of another.

a funny thing happened to me ....one time I was telling my treatment provider that I was dissociating but what I was saying was not matching up with my posture, and other appointment sessions, my file,..

one day he said ok let me get this straight you see yourself outside your body but when I asked you this question you answered no its not like that. you said you feel this way but when I asked you this question you answered differently... theres no way to feel this and not be the question I asked you...

Then he said "I need you to stop trying to use other peoples words to clarify your thoughts and tell me what.......you ...... are feeling, what you are experiencing... not the wording and style and problems you are finding elsewhere. so which is it are you feeling this or are you feeling that, do you see your self outside your body, which is a completely different problem then you are trying to explain or are you doing what my question asked?"

one thing about talking to others before going to a treatment provider... others have not gone through what you have in exactly the same manner that you have, they are not in your body, they dont have your chemical make up, life experiences and on and on and on....

So going online to talk to people who have the problem then using what they tell you to clearly tell your treatment provider what is going on inside you is only going to end up with all kinds of problems.

heres another situation my sibling encountered... she asked a friend about a problem she was having. the friend explained how the friend saw the problem. my sibling went to a psychiatrist and used what she learned from her friend to make sure she clearly explained the problem. the psychiatrist asked her for further details and my sibling could not explain it, why because she was using what her friend told her to help clarify explaining it to the psychiatrist... my sibling learned theres more to being a mental disorder and having the symptoms then you can find out online or through her friends. no she wasnt faking it, just that there are key elements that treatment providers know that others dont and talking to friends and online is not going to give those key elements. which means when my sibling was asked about that key element she could not answer or give details.

my suggestion is just be yourself, using your own words, and your own thoughts and how what ever problems you are having affects you. no two people have the same way things affect them anyway. treatment providers dont expect you to be able to clearly explain everything. they just want to know you, what your own problems are and how they can help you in what ever ways the problem is affecting you.