I sometimes overspend, and so does my husband. My closet is crammed with clothes, and half of the basement is full of his projects, electronics, chemicals, tools, etc. This month I was going to spend my allowance on something and I didn't. I don't need this thing until May or June, depending on when I start taking photos again. He's not bipolar and I've been stable for a while. For me it's "the thrill of the hunt" (as new T puts it), and my husband has lots of projects he's interested in.

I don't think buying a pair of needed boots is cause for a family intervention. I have to buy shoes every 6-12 months because I pronate and the sole wears out in spots.