Hello,

I'm in a situation where I really am not sure what do to next and whether I have been wrong.
I thought I knew this friend of mine well and I could trust her with everything and we would talk over the phone regularly since we are living far apart from each other so we only get limited opportunities to meet up. The times did meet up we were both truly happy. This is why I asked if she wanted to go on a 2 week holiday with me during the study break. She agreed to this and I bought the flight tickets and extensively arranged everything. Now it is only 2 week lefts before departure and she has told me she does not want to go. Originally she was OK in travelling with me (she has a boyfriend) so i doubled checked with her but is now reluctant because of this and she also has a bad history of illness and kidney infections so she cited she didn't want to catch an illness that may prove to be fatal abroad.

Of course her change in decision has devastated me not only because I wanted to just spend some more time with her (I am spending a year studying in Japan so I have limited time to see her) but also because I will not get much refund from the $600 tickets I bought and I don't think I could go alone after what has happened (How can I explain this to my parents?)

I was persistent by sending her messages asking her to reconsider but she took this the wrong way and thought I was only caring about myself and called me a stalker due to the frequent messages. So naturally I am shocked.

I have told her I will respect her decision but I know that this will be long in my mind.

Have my actions been wrong? Is our friendship over? What can I do? I thought she was first and only genuine good friend since being here in Japan but maybe I have been made to look like a fool.