I was thinking about the things that dampen my sex urges and
immediately thought of alcohol. I read the first comment
to your question by the woman who experienced your same
problem with things getting better with her current bf.
Then i noticed that she was off alcohol for over a thousand
days and counting. Since moderate social drinking is so
much apart of things people overlook it like
it isn't there. Alcohol is a funny thing in that it
has a drying effect making you thirsty and at the same time
is retained in the body making you bloated. Coffee can
have that same effect. It dehydrates causing you to want
more. They both have a drying effect and both are addictive.

The other thing that kills my sex urge is sleeping pills and
other prescriptive medicine. I threw all of it out.