Flowerb,

These are familiar issues to me. Self care and allowing others to care for me are foreign concepts. I can care for others really well. I care for my children, my husband and well, anyone who needs it.

Allowing T to care for me is difficult. Believing he cares about me is almost an impossibility. So, I suppose there is a difference between caring for and caring about. Caring for feels almost physical, perfunctory and obligatory and caring about implies an emotional connection, a certain level of intimacy. Whoa, this is a good question, one worth exploring furither.

Peace