My therapist got through to me today. He, a fairly effeminate hetero, said "they're going to think what they think. You can't control that. Just be you and happy with that." I know others said that already, but he's right and so are those that have. He also made a terrible sexist joke that I found a bit offensive but also somewhat funny and told him both responses.
I don't want to appear as a super dude. I'm happy with being sensitive, emotionally available, and loving.