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i'm not jealous of other clients.. he doesn't have any. Just me and no one else and he lives in his office and never leaves.

actually, i really am not bothered that he has other clients.. i just don't want to see them. i don't know, i just don't want to think about them or their issues... that is part of my transference issues, being certain i am not good enough, and so i would compare myself - do they look more sane than me?

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This is so interesting to me because I don't mind that he has other clients. I used to be bothered by the good looking women, but now I really don't care. I see people coming out of T's office and look to see whether they are happy or sad as a way to guage what kind of mood he might be in. Now, THAT is transference.

Here is a quote from Yalom:

"A patient can tolerate the therapist's being unfaithful outside of the house that is the patient's own. Though it is understood that therapist's embrace other relationships, that there is another patient waiting in the wings for the hour to end, there is often a tacit agreement not to address that in therapy. Therapist and patient conspire to agree that theirs is a monogamous relationship. Both therapist and patient secretly hope that exiting and entering patients will not meet one another."