Help. I am seeing a (new) therapist next Monday. My pdoc recommended her and she is walking distance from my place. It’s the first time I will be seeing one since end 2016. What do I ask her to determine if we’re going to be a good fit?

Background:
I have seen two therapists before.
The first I saw when I was first diagnosed with bipolar. I was predominantly manic and a real handful. She didn’t believe in labels and never acknowledged that I had bipolar. So I spent the year in denial that I had bipolar and arguing with my pdoc that I was a qualified health professional and her diagnosis was wrong etc.
The second I saw was nice but too soft for me. I’m a stubborn opinionated person and I was stronger than her. She acted like I was there for her to lean on. I hate it when a psychologist wants to tell you about everything wrong in their week - I feel like saying I’m not paying you to tell me your problems and besides if you want advice from someone acutely unwell I’m not sure about your judgement.

Anyhow, I know I need to see someone. I’m still grieving the loss of my career, my social anxiety is bad and it’s getting worse. I can’t seem to manage my stress, I’m abnormally flippant about death and I need a therapist who can do something called Radical Acceptance Therapy (mentioned last time I was ip for suicidality).