You can't buy skill. Think of the crummy relationships you've had in your life. What did you get? Only the time they took. A skilled therapist working for the State or an agency could still decide they don't like you and just give their time to fulfill their job requirements and collect a check. You can't force the relationship so if one has a good relationship, it's a "gift" of the person giving it (and the other person, us, giving too, ourselves -- T's won't work with people who refuse to do the work)