yeah mouse, me either.. but the thing about these discussions is that we are all each at different places, with different relationships. Perna's experience with therapy has little to do with mine for example, although i do value the different perspectives. My experience has little to do with mouse's.. and so on. It's all so personal... i don't think it's just about time tho.. personally, i dont think the money would be worth it for them. The boundaries are maintained in part to keep them from being drained.. for the very reason that this is a personal investment.

the change to ever more brief processes and rigid CBT seems to be changing the dynamic and the people who become T's IMO.. the personal investment aspect can be greatly reduced.

sunrise, i completely get what you're saying.. listening to others drove me nuts. i didn't get it. Even read back here and you'll prolly find posts by me which are opposite to how i feel now. That's because the caring is different than i was able to define then. It isn't like a friendship, or family or love interest.. it's just plain different from that. i have been startled by it.. it feels safe, ok and genuine.

i figure that if someone doesn't believe he cares about me, well, they are welcome to their opinion... and that is all it is, their opinion. There simply is no concrete evidence or research or anything to support the claim... it's all personal experience, anecdote, etc. i can believe some stranger on the internet, or i can believe the man who sits with me 2xweek for a year.. hmm, tough choice.

he has been deeply genuine and honest with me, and he has been with me through some very deep emotional stuff.. stuff that has made him feel strong things too... there is a bond. If i couldn't afford to see him anymore then yeah, i know it would have to stop.. but i don't think he'd feel just ok with that or feel nothing. He once said that something i described to him from my past made him feel sick inside... i believe him.

i have to ask myself: why would he lie? He says he cares. He acts like he cares. Everything seems to add up to him caring. Why would he lie? How would that help me get better?