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Originally Posted by MoxieDoxie
Knowing a few things help shift the power differential for me. It feels very uncomfortable for me to be in a situation where the other person learns everything about me yet I know nothing about them. I want to know some of their vulnerabilities or things they struggled with and simple demographics like if they are married with kids.
Seeing them kiss someone might upset me if I have some type of transference and get jealous or make me feel bad about myself because I long to have that kind of relationship with someone where I am loved and desired.
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I agree - - knowing nothing leaves me in too vulnerable a position.
My T has disclosed exactly two things about himself in eight months. Blank slate to the extreme.
Knowing nothing was driving me round the bend. I went full on Google sleuth after a few months of therapy and managed to find out a few things about him. I feel much more relaxed in sessions now, just from finding out a few basics.