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Originally Posted by mostlylurking
I think your T probably assumed you'd go out the back door and never see this person. I don't think they did something inappropriate, if that's the case. But I don't think T's realize how clients can often feel about their private lives and the people close to them -- for a whole variety of different reasons. A wise T would try to keep their private life very private as a general rule, though of course there can be reasons to share things with some clients.
I'm sorry if it was really disconcerting for you. I think that kind of reaction would not be uncommon.
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My thoughts as well. For your therapist it was the end of their working day and he didn't think that you'd have a reason to come back to the office after you leave.They thought you'd just leave and never see that person. That's why they made a previous arrangement with that person to meet at their office at the end of the day and then go together somewhere. It wasn't inappropriate since the work was over and all patients were supposed to be out of the office by that time.
That said, I 100% understand why you feel the way you feel about it. I believe that your therapist wouldn't have allowed that person to come to the office had they known you'd be back after you left. But things like that do happen. In real life we can't predict everything and be sure that something wouldn't interfere with our plans or schedules. So, you just had an unfortunate situation which affected you emotionally, but that was no one's fault.
Generally speaking, it's inappropriate for therapists to allow people from their personal life to sit in the waiting room or to be anywhere in the office space where they can be easily seen by patients during business hours. But, in your case, it happened after hours. Still, I think, it's best for therapists to meet with people from their personal life outside the office all the time, but it's not always possible. The realities of life bring limitations.