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Being vulnerable and letting another take care of us is one of the hardest things we have to learn. We're so use to making sure nothing bad happens to us (and others) that letting someone else be in charge of that emotionally can feel almost impossible. We want to be the last one to check the lock on the door; we don't want to go to bed first and leave that to someone else.

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Why is this wrong? Aren't adults supposed to be self sufficient? This is where I am confused. Isn't the whole issue of a therapeutic relationship is that it is meant to be temporary. In the end aren't we are supposed to be able to handle the responsibility of caring for ourselves?