Too, we think we are independent and self-sufficient when we aren't actually, no one is or can be. We don't grow our own food or, most of us, don't employ ourselves and pay our wages. We let mechanics fix our cars, have handymen in to help fix things in the house, get our drycleaning done, rely on bus, subway or cab to get us to our appointments, etc. If the power goes out or our cell phone breaks, etc. we've got problems and have to call for "help" from service providers. We can't go to work and teach our children at the same time. T's are service providers too and are there to help us remember how interdependent we are with others and how to get along with others.

Emotional needs aren't much different from physical; we need reassurance and support emotionally, feedback from friends like here at PC. It's not bad or "wrong" to try to do everything ourselves, it's just tiring and doesn't work so well and if anything breaks down in our system, then we're in big trouble because we don't know where we can turn for backup, haven't made ourselves a personal resource "list". We live far away from or have trouble with our parents and siblings, don't have an SO or one we can count on, and don't know how to ask for help because we're use to doing things on our own. Because we think we're supposed to be this way, we're embarrassed to even have to ask for help or need it, thinking that means there's something wrong with us. People are social animals. Very few live wholly alone and those that do don't live as long (look at how married people live longer than singles?).