No one is perfect but it’s important to distinguish between imperfections and red flags/deal breakers. People often confuse the two. It’s also important to know what your deal breakers are and not try to change people (people make minor adhstmebts but it’s useless to try change who they are at their core).

People settle down and marry other people who they know aren’t suitable partners. And they stay with unsuitable partners. Then they don’t understand why relationship is going south. You can fall in love with wrong people of course but settling with them is unnecessary. And it doesn’t mean every doomed relationship is because someone is abusive. Sometimes people are just wrong for each other. I’ve never been abused yet I had relationship and marriage that weren’t working in a long run: bad matches/wrong for each other. Not every good person is a match.

So just be careful and pay attention. And definitely not every relationship is going to deteriorate. Certainly not.