My therapists said it. They said, "I am proud, happy, or excited for me only after I expressed a desire to do things in my life that I found difficult or impossible to accomplish because of childhood baggage. I still appreciate it. The only difference now is I am able to accept "I'm proud of you" from family, colleagues and friends and actually believe them.

Some don't need it and find it infantilizing and I can appreciate that POV.