My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. I want kids, he doesn't.

We have talked about our future in depth. At first I was barley an adult and didn't know what I wanted. But as our relationship has progressed and I am growing up I realized that YES I do want kids.

He has never been keen on the idea. At first he said he didn't want them because of health issues he didn't want to pass down. Then we agreed to adopt or just have 1 kid. He has gone back and forth since and now he said that he 100% does not and will not want kids.

We are at the point where either I agree to give up on my idea of being a mother, or we part ways.

I know that he is the love of my life and I do not want to be with anyone else. I can't imagine a life without him in it. I can't imagine being with anyone else. I do not love easily and may not find anyone I want kids with. I know that he will always have part of my heart so it seems unfair to be with someone else.

However, I try to imagine a childless life and it just feels a bit empty. He said that he knows I will feel sad and regretful of not having kids- I agree. But I will feel sad and regretful if we broke up.

I know we can have a nice life together but I am very prone to loneliness and I like the idea of filling my life with family.


Has anyone been through this who has any words of wisdom for me?

Has anyone had kids and regretted it or not had kids and regretted it? Or not had kids and lived a very fulfilled life?