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Originally Posted by whispershadow
Personally, I don't regret not having kids, I found having pets around helps me much better than having kids around 
My personal feelings though is I can't deal with kids anyways, if I spend longer than a couple of hours round them it sends my anxiety into a severe tailspin and I need to physically remove myself from where the kids are in order to calm down
What you need to do is decide for yourself which is more important: staying with someone who doesn't want kids or having kids? Have you explained to your boyfriend how important it is for you to have kids? |
Yes, he knows how important it is to me. He was willing to have kids at first and even spent some time babysitting and working with kids at his clinic to see what it would be like. He concluded it was exhausting and he would never want that 24/7.
I have never spent long periods of time with children, never had kids in the family (other than when I was a kid). I babysat a few times when I was a teen but that's really it. I don't particularly ENJOY spending time with kids but i want them for the idea of having a strong family unit. But I don't know if the day to day of taking care of them and the financial burden will truly make me happy.
What about them gives you anxiety?