It really comes down to whether or not kids is a deal breaker for you. You need to do some serious soul searching on this. It would not be fair to your boyfriend to build a life together while secretly hoping he will “change his mind someday.”

The thing is that a couple can compromise between 2 or 3 children. But there is no compromise between 0 and 1.

Many decades ago I ended up divorcing my husband because he kept pressuring me to have a baby. I had married with the express intention that I was NOT going to have more children. This was my second marriage. I had kids he didn’t.

He eventually remarried and has 2 adorable daughters. He’s happy and I’m happy for him. But I’m really glad I stood my ground.