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Old Apr 07, 2018, 06:20 PM
Olive303 Olive303 is offline
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Originally Posted by graystreet View Post
I don't know that I would expect them to give that up to be with me. I would think that, at some point, they would grow to resent me for it. Like I said, that is a huge life decision. I want to travel, and would resent a partner who didn't want to travel with me. I love animals (I mean, not having cats is sort of a deal breaker since I've had them--not the same ones--for almost 40 years and am not giving mine up for a man) and I would resent a partner who didn't want them. This is a far bigger thing than both of those combined. It is on par with religion or like, the decision to get married or just live as life partners.
You are right, we worry about that as well. If I want kids now I imagine at some point my childless life will feel empty. He does not want me to give that up for him and worries I will feel resentment but ultimately has put the ball in my court. I wonder if that desire to have kids ever goes away?