You know the truth and we, your friends, know the truth. Who knows if it was deliberate on your stepmother's part or if she's just not too swift. My stepmother wasn't in some areas.

It matters to you because you are still alive but your father doesn't know/hurt from it or if he does know, he too knows the truth of the situation.

Do you have your own lawyer to advise you about the estate and what the will actually says/doesn't say, etc.? She does "survive" him and throwing little, old ladies out in the snow, even if they deserve it is kind of frowned on in our society :-) Usually estates go to the spouse; I'm surprised that she only gets the 80%. If my husband dies first I'll only "get" to control 50% but I can use the rest for my maintenance if I need assisted living or nursing home, etc. It will mostly be divided the way it is because of tax laws and trying to keep as much possible for when the second person dies. My husband's and my lawyer talked about how difficult it gets with remarriages, etc.; I have no children of my own and love my stepsons and their families but still I'm pissed I won't get to "control" the property. I'm sure the children see it differently. I'm trying to solve some of the problem by dividing up a lot of the estate when one person dies and giving them some money then, when they're middle-aged and need it! Then the rest would be "mine" and I'd probably leave it to them when I died (since I don't really have anyone else) but I'd also have the discretion to leave it to my second husband's 3rd son's second wife's nephew if I felt like it :-)