MoxieDoxie,

I empathize greatly with how you feel! I am so happy you started this thread. I don't know about you, but I much prefer to regress than progress! I also do not enjoy adulting... Do you relate?

I don't know what will ease your conscience surrounding these matters, however, I can say I struggle with this too and I know a lot of others who do as well. I think we live in a world that is becoming more and more narcissistic. Society conditions us to believe we must always progress and move forward, otherwise we are failures, nobodies, etc. If we ever stray from this forward motion, we experience some form of guilt, shame or self-deprecating judgment and it can take us a long time to escape it's grasp. Is this something that resonates?

By societies standards (And societies standards simply do not matter), I am a complete and utter failure. However, considering what I have been through in my life, I can honestly say that I have done okay. One thing I had to learn to do is STOP comparing myself to others; no one ever feels better by doing this. Try to be gentle with yourself when you compare yourself to your husband; you have a completely different deck of cards than he does and with it comes strengths and weaknesses that only you can truly know. If you are really honest with yourself, can you see why you may need to take a day off and simply stay indoors?

I LOVE to hibernate! Especially in the winter! I LOVE teddy bears and blankies and all kinds of regressive things. It is okay to give yourself a break. One thing a great therapist taught me is to listen to my body. My body says a lot and if I listen to it I will feel better.

I hope this will help in some way, I'm sure you already know everything I have shared.

Thanks,
HD7970ghz