I voted "other".
My last T may become a better T from working with me, or may not.
She said that she had learned a lot from me, but terminated the therapy because she "did not have the emotional resources" to continue.
An experience that she had with another client may have made her "worse", at least for me. She told me some about this previous client when we were having problems, as a "reason" why she could not be so "present" with me. I know now that was clearly an "out-of-bounds" action, but I didn't know that then. I also think we repeated the same pattern. She wasn't "there", I complained, she got huffy and one-downed me, and my "angry part", that I had tried so hard for so long to try to "get in touch with", did not come back "in", in therapy, although the rest of me did.
So, my T did not become a better T, at least while I was working with her, from what I can tell. If she becomes better for others, that feels really crappy to me. When the therapy failed I asked her for a partial refund. She refused. I guess they think it's their "right" as therapists to "practice" on and use clients for their own development?
So whereas I would have been happy (and "proud") to have thought that I contributed to my T before the rupture without repair, I feel used and discarded -- and definitely not "proud" -- now.
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