I am inclined to agree with the original poster. It is vitally important to me that my pdoc be the utmost of a professional and that the relationship I have with him be one only of doctor-patient. I don't want to cross any boundaries. It is not a friendship and I am of the opinion such things never should be.

He has been my pdoc now for five years. The only thing I know about him personally is that he has a young adult son that seems a bit lost. We have joked about it being a case of 'the shoemakers kid going barefoot'. The only reason this came up was it came as a response to what he felt was my excessie worry over my own son coming up against difficulties.

I have made some conclusions about the sort of man he is based on his office space - art work, objects on his desk, lack of clutter, expensive coffee machine, etc. I know then that the man likely has some OCD challenges, likes to surround himself with meaningful things, and has a cafiene problem.

I ran into him once when he was with a friend at a sporting event. He merely said hello and that it was good to see me. He introduced me to his friend as a friend and colleague.

That is the extent of it and that, thank goodness, goes no further.