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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
You are finally recognizing how you were "unknowingly" groomed by your father to give up your own needs to please him and you probably were starved for healthy attention. Remember, a child literally has no idea what a narcissist is, or what is toxic and what isn't.
A child just wants to be loved and "seen" and if the parent is narcissistic that child learns that love is conditional and all about "pleasing" dear old dad.
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YES. Precisely! I also learned unhealthy habits where I didn't learn how to really care for myself and protect myself. I was so naive about men and people in general. And yes, I used to always worry in relationships about pleasing the other person. That was my biggest concern -- THEIR happiness, not mine.
Thank you for helping me with this. I see it plain as day now. WOW. It took most of my adult life and many toxic relationships to finally come to this point.