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Originally Posted by graystreet
I can see this.
I act all big and say that I could let someone go who wanted kids when I don't and that it's a deal breaker, but if I finally found someone who treated me like a queen and we fell madly in love after all of the BS I've been through ehhhh I don't know that I'd have the fortitude to let that man go. BUT. It would be a selfish decision on my part because I'd be doing it for myself and not the future children. I know I would not make a good mother. I was a great children's Sunday school teacher, I was a great volunteer in the children's room at Gilda's Club. I am a great babysitter, and children really take to me. But that doesn't compare to being a mother. 24/7, I wouldn't be able to sustain it.
So I guess I still maintain that I'd feel that someone who gave up wanting kids for me would resent me.
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Logically it makes sense to let someone go when you are not on the same page about something this big. But when you have a great love in front of you VS. a hypothetical situation- (
maybe having kids.. one day..
if you find the right person- it is that much harder to decide.
I have been through trauma at the hands of a man in the past and my current relationship is the first man I have felt comfortable around since then- the only one I have fully trusted. That doesn't just happen often, and it doesn't feel like something you just let go.
He thinks I will resent him for this and never truly be happy without kids so he is worried for our future. I am trying to think about being a mother carefully and why I really want it and some of the reasons are selfish.